One of the worst things we can do to ourselves is to misunderstand our meanings. However, it Is something that we do more often than we think. Most of us feel like we need to be constantly doing things in order to get something in return, and when I say something in return, I’m not talking about concrete benefits but mainly about the emotional ones. Nonetheless, we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves when we act like that, we are not really the ones to blame, yet we have the power to change it or not.
Somewhere along the line, you realised that if you are good at something, you would be reward for it, and it would show your real value. Unfortunately, this validation comes from others, it comes from how people see you and not how you see yourself, and sadly this reward is inexistent a less you do something to get it. So you go through life performing, showing people all the amazing things you can do to be approved, loved, and feel a sense of worthiness.
Once the “doing’ pattern is set, we flip from one goal to the next, feeling that we are only as good as our last achievement, and by doing so, we lose our essence of what we really are, we are not meant to do, but to be, after all we are human beings.
If you know a bit of anxiety, you probably know that it is also caused by being in a moment but thinking about the next one and as a result, we get anxious. Learning requires more being than doing. When you prepare yourself to learn something, you have to make sure that your soul and your body are present in that moment. Anything else can wait.
This week, set a goal to be present to your classes, not only physically but mentally. Paying attention to the words that are being said, their sounds, their meanings, hold them as your own, and if in the meantime your focus drifts away, don’t panic; just take a few deep breathes and jump right back into it. Being present requires practice, but this is learning.