One of the evils of the human psyche (the soul and the mind) is that we tend to forget the good things and keep hold of the bad things. Sometimes we receive hundreds of compliments, ‘you are so smart, ‘look how creative you are,’ ‘you are so beautiful, etc. But if one time we receive a: ‘you are a loser, that will stick.
Why can we not remember the good things instead?
Happy people are not happy because the wind is always blowing in their favour, as a matter of fact, I noticed that happy people are the ones who are frequently facing challenges. Happy people are happy because they decide to be so and probably because they realised at some point that focusing on the injustices that they have received would soon turn them into bitter people.
How becoming a happy person, can positively impact my learning process?
Every so often some of my students express a bit of anger when they discover a new word that they have never heard before, ‘why does this word mean 2 different things?’, ‘too many new words, ‘oh my God, another one. They don’t even realise that they have already decided to block their brain to receive that new information and as a result, they can’t learn it. In my mother language, we have a saying: if you accept it, it will hurt less and that’s the secret. The walls that are stopping us to go further on our learning journey have been built by ourselves.
A happy person will watch the rain from their window and be glad for being safe; they might not have the best job, but they will be happy with the fact that they have one that provides for their families; they might not have a car but they will be glad they can walk. Does this mean that happy people don’t complain? Not at all, they do and probably very often, but when the negative thoughts kick in they remind themselves of hard times come and go.
Commit yourself to becoming a happier student by having a positive attitude towards your studies. Try word things in another way; Instead of rejecting a new vocabulary by saying negative things about it, be open to it, say things like, wow that’s a new one, interesting! I wonder how can I add it in a sentence,’ and so on…
Sometimes a small change in the way we look at things can lead us to a whole new level! Try it!